Fasting Isn’t Easy, But It’s Worth It

One day I walked over to a friend who was sipping a spicy smelling lemonade.  As a serious lemonade lover, of course I commented and she then told me it was the recipe found in the Master Cleanser by Stanley Burroughs.  Never having heard of the Master Cleanser or Burroughs before, she explained to me that it was a lemonade made from organic lemon juice, natural grade B maple syrup, distilled water and cayenne pepper.  She further explained it was formulated as a detox beverage and that the lemonade, water and herbal teas were all she would consume for 10 days. Continue reading

Formula to Improve Confidence

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill is a profound book that teaches you how to leverage your creative powers to manifest your goals. I’ve previously a summary of Hill’s review on leadership qualities.  As a third topic, I want to share his Confidence Formula.  He encourages people to memorize, and then regularly repeat it to themselves. I think it’s too much to memorize (yes, I can be lazy), so I made a cheat sheet and keep it in my life planner for daily review.

During a spring vacation I fell out of the habit of reading it. Last week I stumbled across m cheat sheet while cleaning out my agenda. As I reviewed it, I got excited.  I remembered how this formula shifted the tone of my thinking which, in turn, shifted the overall tone of my day. Continue reading

Bravery or Fear: You Can’t Know What Drives Other’s Decisions

In 2013 Angelina Jolie wrote an article about her medical decision to pursue a double mastectomy after she learned of her increased risks for breast and ovarian cancer because she inherited the BRCA1 gene mutation. Shortly after writing this story Melissa Etheridge, a breast cancer survivor, explained in an interview that she felt Jolie’s decision was ”fearful” rather than brave.

Etheridge explained her perspective by saying, “My belief is that cancer comes from inside you and so much of it as to do with the environment of your body. It’s the stress that will turn that gene on or not. Plenty of people have the gene mutation and everything but it never comes to cancer so I would say to anybody faced with that, that choice is way down the line on the spectrum of what you can do and to really consider the advancements we’ve made in things like nutrition and stress levels.”

I agree with her that disease is often triggered by stress and therefore prevented by taking a holistic approach to health and wellbeing. Yet her words rubbed me the wrong way. For a long time her remarks about Jolie’s choice annoyed me, but I couldn’t place why. Then I had a realization. Continue reading

Listen to Your Inner Critic: It’s giving you tough love

As an advocate for positive thinking, I have spent a fair deal of time silencing my inner critic. There are two reasons for this. Firstly, it’s a remnant from my willful dismissal of the outrageous thoughts I had  while suffering from depression; and secondly, it’s a fearful reaction of wanting to shut down negativity before it grows. These efforts have undoubtedly helped me to more fully appreciate where I am in life. Yet that nagging voice wouldn’t go away no matter how much I tried to ignore it.

In April I read From Business Woman to Housewife: My Journey to Finding Inner Peace by Mina Irfan. After many years of trying to silence this critic, Mina’s book introduced me to an entirely new way of handling this internal audience (a term coined by Dr. Doug Lisle). She writes, “Impressing our internal audience raises our self-esteem…. It’s almost ironic since this mechanism came to exist through millions of years of evolution so that we can make the right decisions when it came to impressing our clans, tribes, or communities, which increased our rate of survival. As long as we make diligent effort to impress our internal audience, our self-esteem will continue to rise, and it will matter less and less what others actually think of us.” She decided to listen to her internal audience and pursue actions that would take the power out of its criticisms. Continue reading

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up

The KonMarie method for decluttering your home was developed by Marie Kondo. She describes it succinctly on page 1 of her book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. She writes, “Start by discarding. Then organize your space, thoroughly, completely, in one go.” Next she makes the bold claim that if you take her approach, you will not rebound into a cluttered state.

It just so happens that I love sorting and organizing all manner of things. I learned about the KonMarie method during a flight home from work travel and was thrilled that it was a Friday afternoon because I was ready to tackle my home promptly after arriving. Admittedly, I didn’t think I’d have much to do since my family already has a rhythm for semi-annual edits on our belongings. I was wrong! I was surprised by the outcome of using the KonMarie method. Continue reading

You’re the Villain When You Force Your Rules on Others

Somebody who used to be close with my family thinks I’m a villain. Ok, maybe not that I’m an outright villain, but definitely that I’m a bad guy. For the time that we were close, I gave advice and friendship by encouraging her personal development. My typical advice was along the lines of, be respectful of others, make prudent choices, get active and involved, give more than you get, start with small goals to build momentum for large goals, etc. Essentially, I gave to her the exact same content that I write about here. I was being myself and offering the rules I live by – and that’s the problem. I repeatedly offered the rules I live by. Continue reading